I posted a Poll yesterday to get some feedback on what you, the readers of BornStoryteller, like for me to pontificate about. I have already gotten some great answers in the comments. If you have not posted your thoughts through the Poll, please do by clicking HERE (you don’t have to comment; just click on the poll thingy). I’m just taking a jump to the left to see what others think.
PLUG ASIDE: Just to toot my own horn, if you like creative writing, please read Tale Spinning, my online fiction. END OF PLUG.
NOT QUITE: I am co-hosting The Rule of Three Writers Challenge in October. Please check it out. REALLY END OF PLUG(S).
One of the commentators on Give The People What They Want Poll, the author of the blog Kwee Writings, posted this comment with a lot of questions, and I thought it’d be best to answer them here in a separate post:
I voted, I hope you got the results. The “other” field never would show my typing. I use an iPad a lot and some things don’t alwys interpret to it perfectly. My other would include how sharing writing could be more universal, like PC, laptop, iPad, iTouch, etc. I like Flash Fiction because it’s a length that can be read easily in a few moments on a portable devise. Also, I am having major problems organizing myself. How do you, writers, balance posting to a blog, reading other blogs/other people’s writing, commenting, tweeting, Facebooking, etc. How do you respond when you read/comment another’s work but they never, or only hit and miss, to yours? How do you connect with others? Do you reply to comments left at our site? Tweet or Facebook? Or what? It’s all really very confusing and a bit overwhelming. And, like you said, I ask and basically get, “don’t worry about it”, or discussion that does not touch on any of those questions. Am I too new? Too naive? Too clueless? Sometimes it’s very frustrating. Some kind of topics that could address those things would be great. I hope this helps you. I know it did me, the venting did anyway, thank you.
Venting is a good thing, believe me. I hope I can do all this justice. Let’s go:
How do you, writers, balance posting to a blog, reading other blogs/other people’s writing, commenting, tweeting, Facebooking, etc.
I’ve had this discussion, an ongoing one, really, just the other day with Lisa Vooght of Flash Fiction. I am writing more and more of it is offline for submissions and on my novel (one of many). It is a very tough balancing act: if you spend all your time online, reading, commenting, sharing across the universe, you have little to no time to write.
If you are writing just for your blog, it’s a bit easier. That was when that was all I was doing. Now, my commitments are split, and something has to go sometimes. You really need to prioritize: what is most important to you? Some days, it IS communicating with others. Most days, it’s getting my own work done. I know it’s partially hypocritical of me, asking for feedback when I know I don’t always have the time. I DO try my best to leave comments.
It is important to maintain a relationship with others whose blogs you like/read when posted. I have “met” some great people by doing just that: I would not be co-hosting the blog challenge (above) if Damyanti and I had not had a connection already. Inviting Li in and then JC only helped make it what it is right now. I’ve had some great conversations with others throughout these months. The connections I’ve made have proven invaluable, and I am glad I “invested” my time into doing all this. It just doesn’t happen overnight.
How do you respond when you read/comment another’s work but they never, or only hit and miss, to yours?
I can not be concerned if someone returns to my page to comment or not. That should not be the point, imo. IF you like something someone wrote, or not, and you comment on it, it should be just that. I don’t like the “vote for me, I’ll vote for you/like me and I’ll like you” mentality of many blogging “whores.” If the content is moving in some way, it gets a comment. I have stopped entering any online writing contest that is about numbers. This applies here too. So…not belittling the comment. Just let someone else’s non-response go. It’s not worth worrying about.
It used to bother me when a large group of people stopped commenting/reading my work when I had to cut back on my commenting. I will still read their work when the subject suits me, and comment as I can, but…to stop following someone for not commenting all the time? Then it’s about something else, not about the content. I’d rather read what interests me: just not enough time in the day to do otherwise.
Do you reply to comments left at our site? Tweet or Facebook? Or what? It’s all really very confusing and a bit overwhelming.
I do my best to reply to every comment left on here or Tale Spinning, even if it’s a simple Thank You. I feel you should always thank someone for taking the time to read and write something. I TRY not to be defensive with some responses; don’t always succeed in that, but I do try. I just do NOT like it when someone is rude, demeaning, or plays the “holier than thou” card. I’ve had a few of those, and that just pisses me off. I will either delete that or be less than nice in response. There are many ways to voice one’s opinion without it being combative.
Same with Twitter or FaceBook. I don’t really want to get confrontational, but I also don’t like someone trying to laud their “superiority” over me. Happened yesterday on FB (and it’s happened before). I posted something, got a response that completely went over the top, IMHO, and when I answered, I was told MY response was not logical. I deleted it…then got bitched at for not wanting that out there in the atmosphere.
We all have opinions, and we SHOULD listen to other POVs. I just would like them stated without shoving them down other people’s throats, and then, if a response comes, it’s taken in the same grain. Yesterday’s comments were telling me I was wrong. Nope. Don’t do that to me. I have a right to my opinion. You may not agree, but hear me out.
Take in the fact that people do push out their own personal agendas often without thinking of the other. My advice: ignore the attackers (yeah, there are some who just love confrontations) on Twitter and Facebook. Answer or comment from your heart, stating it’s your opinion, and stick your tongue out at the others. Your blog comments: thank them for stopping by.
And, like you said, I ask and basically get, “don’t worry about it”, or discussion that does not touch on any of those questions. Am I too new? Too naive? Too clueless? Sometimes it’s very frustrating.
Join the club. When I ask for someone’s opinion, it means I want to know THEIR opinion. What I do with it, or not, is up to me. I just really want to know what someone else thinks. A blog is often just one sided. When you get a comment or opinion, you at least have the chance to open up dialogue. Otherwise, it’s a soliloquy, being voiced to the gods above with no response. I don’t mean this to be or not to be with no response. That was good enough for Hamlet.
Sometimes I don’t think people read all the way through and make comments on ONE THING that got to them, not the whole piece. I’ve had that a few times, and I sit here going “um..that was not the point of the piece”. Then I have to go back to my rule: they are voicing their POV. It struck a nerve for them. Have to honor that as long as it’s not in a nasty or demeaning way towards me (see above) or another person who commented.
The off discussion thing happened to someone I used to follow. He asked a very basic question about a social network platform, and in the same post he voiced his frustration. Comment after comment were about his frustration, placating him, there there-ing him…but no one answered his basic question. I was the ONLY one who did. No one else seemed to get it. I am not joking. It was most bizarre. I guess, in this case, say Thank You, and move on.
I use an iPad a lot and some things don’t always interpret to it perfectly. My other would include how sharing writing could be more universal, like PC, laptop, iPad, iTouch, etc.
I left this one for last as I’m not qualified to answer it, really. I basically only read online material through my laptop (once in awhile on my stupid phone). The one thing I do know is not to use Flash until the iAnythings buy into Adobe. I don’t like reading things on some devices as it’s hard to “see” for me. Haven’t used any of the pads or tablets out there, so…nothing I can really talk about.
Kwee…I hope this helps you, and others. As always, I open this up to any and all to respond to the questions above in the comment section. Your thoughtful comments are always welcome.
Just don’t piss me off.