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  1. sulekha
    Nov 06, 2011 @ 08:43:57

    Interesting article about changing your mind about what you want to do with your life. We shouldn’t be afraid of change and should welcome it with open arms.


  2. Andrea S. Michaels
    Nov 06, 2011 @ 10:12:28

    Fear of change is due to different priorities. For some, security is the first, at any price. For others, it’s freedom. Or self-fulfilment.
    But more often than not, it’s about confidence. If you’re not sure, that this is your path, you’re not gonna jump.


    • bornstoryteller
      Nov 06, 2011 @ 11:15:21

      Andrea: yup..it does take confidence and courage to take a risk. I know it first hand…it’s the “if I ask the pretty girl out, will she laugh at me” syndrome from when we were teens.

      Me? I’d rather jump than stagnate.



  3. Melissa Wilson Sheldon
    Nov 06, 2011 @ 10:13:44

    Love it! Honestly, I am scared of change because of fear of failure. I will keep this in mind next time I hesitate. 🙂


  4. Nicole/MadlabPost
    Nov 06, 2011 @ 10:32:28

    Insightful post! I’ve come across some reading material every so often that said something like, if we don’t change or embrace change, then we don’t grow and there is no progress. Much of this is something that I find in Buddhist texts, but, it can apply to anything.

    I’ve taken a leap of faith more than once. Most times, those leaps have left me financially broke and wondering how I’m going to pay my bills, so I understand the point and purpose of doing what one loves but I can relate to those who are concerned about where their next meal is going to come from if what they love doesn’t pan out.


    • bornstoryteller
      Nov 06, 2011 @ 11:20:05

      I’ve been broke a number of times (like right now), but I fi9nd persistence, planning, and looking at ALL options the key. Then, do it again.
      I feel what you learn from it’s not panning out to be key for future growth: what not to do, or who not to be like, is very important. Thanks Nicole


  5. JR Nova
    Nov 06, 2011 @ 10:41:49

    Well said, Stuart. I wonder how many people know what it is they want to do. What do they love?


  6. jan
    Nov 06, 2011 @ 17:23:00

    I left a menial job that I loved when I started 25 yrs ago, and learned to hate. I was a cashier at a convenience store. When I started it it was a small family owned business but grew into a large family own business and their priorities changed. The customer and employees were no longer important, only the bottom line. I left and had no prospects of a “job”. Creatively my husband and I lowered our living expenses ( like they could get much lower), he loves his job and now I once more love mine. Mine is to help care for mama and all the little ones of my children while parents strive to make ends meet. This is the best thing I could have done, I found my camera, I found the blog world and I am no longer stagnating in a dead end job. I don’t know what the future holds, I know I will never be rich in $’s but truly I have so much more since I was willing to make the change.


  7. patricia
    Nov 06, 2011 @ 18:51:07

    We fear change when we fear failure and also when we fear success!
    Our rational mind cannot get this and still I have been trhought this with myslef and my clients. Welcoming change cna be done easily once we have seen our fears in the eyes.
    Thanks for this post!


  8. Larry Lewis
    Nov 07, 2011 @ 07:41:01

    Great post. Follow your passions. To me that is the only way to both live and work.


  9. Chuck Moss
    Nov 08, 2011 @ 22:17:09

    As a father and the sole provider whose job has benefits, I can’t call stepping into change “courageous” if it leaves my 4 and 9 year-olds high and dry if there’s a medical emergency (not to mention the braces for which we’re already paying). Do I love what I do? Well, I love my kid’s, and I love knowing they’re secure. The rest will have to wait.


    • bornstoryteller
      Nov 08, 2011 @ 22:25:39

      Chuck: I understand where you are coming from. I just do believe there are other choices one can make, still be secure, and you can beana happier too.

      Change IS courageous. Not all changes should be made right now, but…don’t turn your back on them. There ARE things you can do to satisfy yourself. worked full time and did theater at night.

      Find what makes you happy now: the kids do grow up, and they do grow away.


  10. Novel Girl
    Dec 19, 2011 @ 15:48:32

    I work full-time at the moment, which is the polite way of saying I’m paid to be chained to a desk and do the dirty work for everyone else.

    You guessed it. I hate my job.

    I enrolled in Cert. IV in Prof. Writing & Editing this year. I study part-time so I won’t lose my security or income and I’ll finish the course next yr.

    Really, I’m playing my work. I’m using it for the income but I write and read every day and promise myself I will finish and publish my manuscript and no editor or publisher is going to stop me. I do what I want. And by God, I’m getting my manuscript published as a book one way or another.

    Yup, I think being stuck at a job I hate has made me feel like I’m working to a deadline. I can’t stand being there one minute longer so I’m pushing my writing/editing career as much as possible at the same time.

    Thanks for listening to my rant. I feel good now.


  11. Chantal Boudreau
    May 06, 2012 @ 12:19:01

    Chuck – I’m a sole provider as well, so I understand where you are coming from. I would never leave my day job unless I had something secure, with benefits, in its stead, because it would cause my family to suffer. It’s much different if the risk is yours alone – I don’t think people who have no dependents get that. I find ways to enjoy my job, instead of allowing myself to feel trapped by it, and I do what I like creatively on the side.

    As far as children growing older and growing away, they don’t all do that either. My son is autistic and will likely be with us for as long as my husband and I are capable of caring for him. I’m not going to take any great leaps or throw caution to the wind, for his sake, but I’m not giving up my dreams either. You can do both.


    • Stuart Nager
      May 06, 2012 @ 17:22:01

      Chantal: I think you and Chuck are reading this wrong: What I’m saying is that you can find other work (or try to) to achieve something better for yourself. I NEVER said just quit your job and have nothing backing it up. That is irresponsible. What I do disagree with are those who settle and are unhappy; it spills over into their non-working life, and if you think that’s not true then…

      Do what you have to…dream…and if it happens you can find it, then do it.


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