When I started this series this past week, well, the response has been overwhelmingly positive. The guest posts that I have already published, as well as the ones ready to go (one tomorrow; two more to be seen next week), are all taking different points of view on how they live and approach creativity. That is what this series is all about: how do you find, embrace and use your creativity.
I did receive one comment on here and a few from other sources that seem to not get point I was going for.
I apologize for that.
I am not saying that you should not take care of your family. I am saying that you should strive to find what you love and try to fit it into your life. It may not be the sole source of your economic structure. It may have absolutely nothing to do with economics. Yet, I have found, for myself, that when I made myself the least of my priorities, I was only hurting myself.
It does feel that when we take a look at security for our families we neglect what we need to do for ourselves. We should never do that! We should not have to wait until the children are grown, mortgages are paid for (if ever), and life that gets in the way happens. I also do feel that just jettisoning what you’re doing to make a living without a concrete plan is, often, foolish.
When I made the switch after 15 years of management, it had been years in coming. Yes, it was a huge risk. Did I suffer financially? At times: yes! Was still the best decision I’ve ever made? YES! While my bank book has never recovered, I also have never felt happier in what I’ve been doing.
Could I have phone fallen on my face? Of course. That’s what risks means. Did my family suffer for this? We cut back on things, saw what was necessary that I should have my life or not. Concessions had to be made. I thought to myself: do my children want me working 60+ hours a week, being miserable or feeling miserable and stressed out, or, having more time to spend with them and feeling fulfilled and content?
For me, I had to do what I did.I AM fulfilled, content and happy with what am doing.
You should do what you have to do for yourself and your family, but we should never neglect what you need for yourself, even in the smallest way.
While I was working at my job, I did a number of shows at night (I performed with a Gilbert and Sullivan production company in NYC), eventually leaving that and joining, and eventuality co-running, a weekly improvisation class. These things satisfied my creative itch for a while. They also helped me to move on to what has proven to be my life work. It was a formative period. It did not happen overnight. It was not done on a whim. It was a big chance and I took it.
Take chances in your life. I really cannot stress more that just settle. Stretch. Look for new things. Satisfy your itch.
SO… WHAT IS YOUR LIFE WORK/PASSION?
Please take care of your family and commitments. But… Please take care of yourself as well. Do what you love. Find a way to fit it into your life. Don’t put it off because you absolutely no idea what the future is going to bring you.